運動員委員會反對抵制奧運 (明報) 04月 25日 星期五 11:05AM

迷信的香港人，喜看運程書，盲目了解運程好壞，趨吉避凶；與其被動地聽天由命，不如主動重整心靈，讓自己活得快樂又自在。趕快參考以下10件對心靈健康的必做事情，立即行動，即使明天運程是好是壞，一樣能夠以積極樂觀的心情去面對。

近年美國    十分流行正向心理學（Positive Psychology），始創人馬丁‧沙利文博士（Martin E. Seligman）從「人如何活得好一點」方面手，透過科學研究方法尋找快樂元素。正向心理學的要點是，引導人們過愉快的人生（pleasant life）、充實的人生（engaged life）以及有意義的人生（meaningful life）。聯合情緒健康教育中心主席湯國鈞博士，運用了正向心理學原則，提出達致心靈健康的10件事。

1. 保持樂觀思想

抱正面積極的心態，從負面中尋找正面，相信自己的能力和決心，悲觀的人往往沒決心克服困難，所以適當時候要自我說服，改變悲觀想法。多運用正面的述，如「我把工作做得很好」、「我可以應付的」、「雖然……但總算」等。

2. 活在當下

現代人生活繁忙，往往忽略了身邊許多事情，我們要有一顆靜觀的心，將專注力置於此時此刻，活在當下，不恐懼將來，不在意過去，感受此刻的經驗，接受不同的滋味，你會發現身邊多了不少新的體驗和感受，豐富自己的人生。

3. 常感恩與知足

習慣記錄日常生活中值得欣賞和感恩的事情，每月重溫一次，視每件值得感恩的事非理所當然，讓心裏富足。不要將感情埋藏在心，表達出來，多向身邊人表示感激，自己和別人也會快樂。

4. 享受生活樂事

定期做一些自己喜歡的事情，如運動或看電影等，進行時要盡情投入，暫且將一切煩惱拋諸腦後，擴大歡樂的感覺；回味過往的開心片段，如旅行、獲獎勵，也可帶來開心感覺。人是受記憶影響的動物，經常回憶不開心的事情，會使心情低落，相反，經常想開心的事情，心情也會開朗起來，多點欣賞生活、自己和別人，用美好的角度看世界。

5. 投資感情關係

曾有研究指出，快樂的人會擁有一段親密關係。刻意經營親密的親情、友情或愛情關係，有如投資感情銀行基金，高回報、高增值，每星期找朋友出來聚聚舊，和他們分享心事或人生中快樂的事情，有助提升自己的快樂指數。

6. 多助人多行善

做義工、損款慈善機構、助養兒童，多做助人的事會使心情愉快。同情別人的際遇時，反思自己已經很幸福，扮演施予者的角色，努力去幫助別人，人也變得自信起來。

7. 放下怨恨向前看

不要受過去不幸或不愉快的事所控制，心靈上不健康的人，很多是因為懷有怨恨的心，這樣會對自己的身心做成很大的傷害。我們應向前看，不要被怨恨拖垮自己，將怨恨遺憾的感受，寫在紙上，然後燒去，有助減低負面情緒。

8. 學習新事物

保持好學精神，不要讓自己停留下來，上課或自學一些對工作或個人成長有用的知識，擴闊視野，充實自己。

9. 發展個人所長

專注發展個人長處，增加成就感，「正向心理學」強調，與其彌補個人不足，不如花時間發揮長處，不論是工作或非工作領域的長處也可。

10. 建立生活規律

快樂的人生建基於良好的生活習慣，研究指出，開心的人生活較有規律，我們要有堅定的意志，令自己的生活達致均衡，作息定時，若一個工作狂，日日夜夜想工作，忽略了身邊的生活，人生也不會快樂。

 

大家一定要幸福哦！鼠年行好運！

xxx

 

 

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24日就開學了，大學生，很期待，一定要努力啊！加油啊！是哦，我想改一個英文名，Yin 是我中文名字的翻譯，而我的姓是Ying,兩個字很similar,英國人很容易搞錯，所以我想在新的學校改名。Anna這個名字怎樣？Anna Ying, 都幾順口，你們有什麽意見可以給我啊？

 

 

 

 

  

 

 

 

 

Thurday:

昨天首先同阿君去唐人街饮茶，两个人吃了7牒野，吃量还蛮大的... 根住两个人去了national gallary, D画真系好犀利，好传神，好像真的一样。我同阿君都怀疑是不是电脑打印出来的。画中人的眼神好像懂得说话. 有幸见识Da Vinci的画，好开心啊！不过个gallary真系好大，我们只走了其中一个section. 皇上你一定要来啊！

根住我同阿君就去了找Ivan阿哥，‘it is ur fault' lol. 好开心有人记得我的生日，虽然是看了手机的日历，甘好啦，就原谅你一次甘多啦！查实阿哥又真系几好人，不要赞坏了他！

Friday:

今朝一早起床，妈妈就告诉我伦敦有炸弹，仲要系Piccadilly station 附近的商店，是凌晨一点找到的，真系好险！last day for college, returned all the books, gosh, they are soo heavy, my friends had to help me to carry them. last time to see the teachers and some class mates. A bit sad, so many pictures taking going on and exchanging e-mail addresses! Gonna miss you lots, good luck!

太好啦，终于熬过了，考晒7个高考试。今日完成了最后further maths 的FP4 同D2, 3个钟的考试，实在太兴奋啦。整体感觉ok，舅母话如果我拿到7个A, 她就会送一部laptop 比我，希望我可以做到啦！考完后就同阿君和Sammy一齐去Kingston, 睇Fantastic four- the rise of the silver surfer, 几好睇，仲有中国的景色，5错。

 

大家考成点啊?

感動和幸福：

突然之間覺得自己好幸福，看到了朋友的留言，朋友的支持令我非常之感動。我應該是一個幾emotional的人吧， 很容易就會哭，會笑，並不是Henry那種深思熟慮，思考型的人，我想的東西都是很簡單的，不想複雜。靜靜地去享受生活的點滴，雖然有時候很不高興，不過學你們講的，不好的東西始終會end. 我一定要加油哦， 不可以令愛我的人失望。真的很多謝你們的支持和關心。

 

婆婆的可愛：

今日係婆婆出院了2個月來的第一次洗澡（之前因爲傷口的地方不能碰水）。婆婆表現得很興奮，成個細路仔。因爲婆婆的行動還是很不方便，需要我們扶她入個bath缸，幫她沖涼。婆婆真的很瘦，好像紙包骨，但是婆婆那種積極面對人生，整天説笑的態度真的很值得我去學習。婆婆真的很可愛，她說要洗曬兩個月用的水先甘心，好funny.

 

Raining, Raining and Raining! yesterday, people all went to china town, and I stayed at home to look after grandma! Usually, I do my revision in my own room, but today in order to take care of grandma i did my revision in the living room downstair, faced  the garden! It was actually quite depressing, whenever i look up, it was raining so heavily! I was keep thinking about my future, what can i do? What will happen in court? Can i stay? I really don't like raining, it is like the Earth is crying not amuse.

 

but at about 5 o'clock, the rain had stopped! The sky is left with the beautiful sunshine, so warm, so nice that it made me smile! I feel so much better in a sunny day, i feel hope, i feel lively, really love this feeling! The weather can really affect my feel for the future! i know i got to stay positive, to have faith, NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE!

 

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Today, all the grandchildren including me all went to Kingston to drink tea with grandfather and aunty and uncle. Grandma was coming, but she didn't feel well enough, so she decided to stay at home. It is really good to see, at the end, Me and Mei tried to contribute to the bill, even though only 10 pound each! grandfather was very happy indeed!

 

Finish revised IT, i got to do some past paper tonight! Add oil everyone! 

no more college lessons! All it left it is the intense revision and 7 exams! Haven't been update my blog for ages! I am so nervous, piles of revision, past papers, so tired and stress! The last maths lesson was so good, we had a party. I still can't believe there is no more maths lesson with Jane. She really is a good teacher, i remember every one huged her before leaving the class, so touching! And she cried after we left, never seen a teacher like that! We all love her!

 

There is something going on recently regarding my application to stay in UK! Unfortunately, it had been refused with no reason. personaly. i think it is because the increasingly strict Law and widening of EU. I was very very upset! But luckily, so many people support me! My uncle found me a lawyer who is currenly help me to appeal for the Home Office decision. We started a petition, now, there are about 800 people had signed it. So many teachers, both from my college and my old school, the headteahers all wrote me support letters for the appeal. My maths Jane, English teacher Rachel and my ex-form tutor Mrs Whitlock all want to go to court to suppor me! All my friends are helping me and comforting me! I feel so touching, I am so thankful and count myself lucky to have so many help and supports! My college even found a local newspaper to publish this new, to get more publicity and more people to sign my petition.

I really don't know what to say, I was so panick, so stress, feel so useless and upset, why it need to happen during my exams, i can't concentrate, I can't take it any more. God, please help me! Hopefully, with all the support, I will be able to get the indefinitely leave to remain in UK, i really don't want to leave my grandma, my family, it is just not fair!

 

I know that so many people are worry about me, I am sorry! I know I got to have belief, be stronger, I don't want to let my friends upset and affect their exams as well! I promise, I will fight for it and I won't let it affect my exams, I want to achieve the best ever results, to show the government, refused me, it is their loss, it is a wrong decision!

 

Once again, thank you for all the friends that have signed my petition and I won' foget your help and support, and I won't disappoint any one that love me!